Added: Oct 23, 2023
In this podcast episode, Ed Mylett discusses the concept of suffering in comfort and how it holds people back from reaching their full potential. He shares a story about four philanthropists who wanted to make a difference in the world by helping men imprisoned in a village. The first philanthropist donated pillows and mattresses to make the men more comfortable in their suffering. The second philanthropist donated clean water to improve their living conditions. The third philanthropist donated fresh food to provide nourishment. However, it was the fourth philanthropist who truly made a difference by unlocking the prison doors and setting the men free from their suffering.Mylett uses this story to illustrate how many people are suffering in comfort in their own lives. They try to add things to make themselves more comfortable in their suffering, rather than addressing the root causes of their suffering. He believes that suffering comes from not pursuing one's dreams, potential, and purpose. Instead, people often pursue material comforts or societal approval to alleviate their suffering.
Mylett emphasizes that the keys to unlocking oneself from this prison of suffering are faith, pursuing one's dreams and purpose, utilizing one's natural skills and abilities, accepting one's worth, and committing fully to something. He encourages listeners to connect with their faith, pursue their passions, and not be held back by past failures or the opinions of others. He urges them to audit their lives regularly and ask themselves if they are living their current dream or someone else's dream.
Mylett compares life to a hundred-room mansion, with each room representing different experiences and opportunities. However, many people spend their lives in the same room, suffering and seeking comfort, instead of exploring the other rooms and mansions available to them. He challenges listeners to take the keys and step out of their comfort zones, pursuing their passions and dreams. He believes that total commitment leads to total freedom, and that pursuing one's purpose and interests can lead to a blissful and fulfilling life.
Mylett acknowledges that pursuing one's dreams involves pain, but distinguishes it from suffering. Pain is temporary and necessary for growth, while suffering is a choice and can be avoided. He encourages listeners to focus on the leading characters in their lives, such as their loved ones and their own legacy, rather than seeking approval from others. He believes that being the leading character in one's own life and making conscious decisions to pursue one's dreams can lead to a fulfilling and successful life.
Mylett emphasizes the significance of familiarizing yourself with your dreams and spending time in the environments that align with those dreams. He shares his personal experience of gradually touching his dreams by setting up incentives for himself and taking short-term breaks to experience the lifestyle he desired. For example, he would set sales goals for himself and reward himself with a one-day stay at a luxury hotel or a round of golf at an exclusive golf course. These experiences allowed him to become more familiar with his dreams and believe that he belonged in those environments.
Mylett also acknowledges that not everyone has the financial means to indulge in expensive experiences. However, he suggests alternative ways to touch your dreams, such as trying on expensive watches or clothes, renting a luxury car for a day, or simply driving through affluent neighborhoods. The key is to expose yourself to the environments and experiences that align with your dreams, even if it is just for a short period of time.
Another strategy Mylett recommends is mental rehearsal. He explains that visualizing and mentally rehearsing your dreams can help condition your mind to believe that you belong in those dreams. By repeatedly picturing yourself in your desired situation, you can shift your mindset and attract opportunities that align with your dreams.
Mylett emphasizes the importance of taking action and making decisions to change your life. He encourages listeners to become desperate for their dreams and to take massive action to achieve them. He explains that our obsessions become our possessions, and by obsessing over our dreams and desires, we can manifest them in our lives.
Furthermore, Mylett discusses the role of identity in achieving success. He explains that our identity, which consists of our thoughts, concepts, and beliefs about ourselves, acts as a thermostat for our lives. Just like a thermostat regulates the temperature in a room, our identity regulates the outcomes and experiences we attract. Mylett emphasizes the need to work on our identity and raise our thermostat setting in order to achieve long-term success.
Mylett continues by highlighting the concept of "blissful dissatisfaction," which challenges the belief that enjoying the present moment will diminish our drive for success. He argues that delaying happiness until we achieve certain goals or milestones is a common mistake that hinders our progress. Instead, he encourages listeners to celebrate their victories along the way, as this boosts dopamine production and motivates us to continue performing at a high level.
The podcast then delves into the importance of evaluating the people in our lives and the impact they have on our mindset and success. Mylett shares his personal experience of realizing that he did not have the right people in his life during a difficult financial period. He emphasizes the need to surround ourselves with individuals who believe in us, support our goals, and challenge us to grow. Mylett suggests evaluating whether the people around us believe in our potential, whether they focus on the past or the future, and whether they help us set high standards for ourselves.
Mylett also discusses the concept of energy givers and energy drainers. He advises listeners to assess whether the people in their lives uplift and energize them or drain their energy. He explains that proximity is power, meaning that the closer someone is to us, the more influence they have over us. Therefore, it is crucial to surround ourselves with individuals who inspire and motivate us.
To eliminate negative influences, Mylett recommends being kind, cordial, and concise with people who do not support our growth. While it may not be necessary to completely eliminate them from our lives, reducing their proximity can help create a more supportive environment. He also suggests seeking out environments where positive and successful individuals gather, as this increases the likelihood of meeting people who can contribute to our growth.
In terms of adding positive influences, Mylett advises offering support, belief, and kindness to others. He emphasizes the importance of reciprocity and the impact that our belief in others can have on their lives. By showing up as an energy giver and a supporter, we can attract like-minded individuals who will contribute to our growth and success.
Mylett concludes the podcast by reminding listeners of their potential to do something great with their lives. He shares his belief that when we pass away, we will meet the person we were born to be, and heaven is when we have become that person. Conversely, hell is meeting that person and realizing we never became them. Therefore, it is crucial to evaluate our environment and the people in our lives to ensure that they support our journey towards becoming our best selves.
